Do you ever feel yourself suffocating from pressures of society? You may feel like you don’t measure up, you’re not pretty enough, you’re not smart enough, you're not talented enough, you’re not successful enough, or you’re not popular enough. You may be that person that at every family gathering you’re asked for the 10000th time if you’ve met someone special yet or are reminded of your age and that you better hurry or you’ll wind up alone. You may be that person who just got out of college and you don’t even want to use your degree anymore. You may be that person who just got broken up with by the love of your life who you were convinced you were going to marry. You may be that person who is running your own business and the stress of failure is killing you. You may be that person who puts on a mask every morning to hide the real you because you believe nobody would actually like her. You may be that person who questions every move you make and worries yourself sick for possibly making the wrong one. You may be that person who can’t leave the house without makeup on because you believe at your core you are ugly and can’t bare the thought of anyone seeing you without it. You may be that single girl who just found out she’s pregnant. You may be that person who just had a family member die on you. You may be that woman who just lost her job. You may be that someone who workouts because you believe nobody would date you otherwise. You may be that hurting girl who cries herself to sleep every night because you never feel like you’re good enough for anything or anyone.
Whoever you are, wherever you are, I want you to know something. As alone and as empty as you feel, you are surrounded by over 7 billion vulnerable people who will never reach perfection and will never live painless lives. We are each beautifully flawed living very imperfect lives, but it is with humble hearts that strive to fail forward that successfully find peace and fulfillment. You are not the only one who has hidden battles deep inside you. Each of us has hurt and cried over things, has felt alone, has felt fear, has failed, has been knocked down, has tearful and painful stories, has fallen short, has messed up, has been rejected, has been wronged, has been unloved, and has gotten it wrong many times. You’re not alone.
Be at peace with being human or else you will never be at peace in your life. Humans are imperfect beings with beautiful souls. We live in an imperfect world full of temptation to pressure ourselves into believing we are nothing unless we are perfect. Find your way back to your soul and let its radiance shine through you. Become rooted in the beauty of humility and dig deep into your own beautiful mess. Love all of who you are, the good and the bad, the strong and the weak, the glamorous and the messy, the success and the failings, the heartbreaks, the dirt, the worst nights and the best days, and use everything that fills your whole unique story to strengthen and empower you.
It’s okay to not be perfect. It’s okay to not have it all figured out. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to mess up. It’s okay to change your mind. It’s okay to start over. It’s okay to be broken and to allow yourself to feel it. It’s okay to change your career. It’s okay to be afraid. It’s okay to be sad. It’s okay to feel down. It’s okay to be hurt. It’s okay to not workout. It’s okay to not wear makeup. It’s okay to not be wearing the latest trends. It’s okay to not be popular. It’s okay to be single. It’s okay, and you’re okay.
What is NOT okay is you giving up on yourself. It’s not okay to stop believing in yourself. It’s not okay to stop loving yourself. It’s not okay to stop taking care of yourself. It’s not okay to think you have no value. It’s not okay to think you have to be a billionaire to make a difference. It’s not okay to think you have to have everything in perfect place in your life to be good at who you are. It’s not okay to believe suffering can’t be a part of your life to be fulfilled. It’s not okay to think you have to have all your ducks in a row to be successful. It’s not okay to think you have to be or your life has to be perfect to be happy. It’s not okay to think you have to be someone else to be loved. It’s not okay to think you have to have all the answers. It’s not okay to believe you are inferior. It’s not okay to think you have to live according to someone else’s standards. It’s not okay to call your life quits. It’s not okay to convince yourself you just being YOU is not enough--yes, imperfect, broken, messy, lovely chaotic YOU.
Your imperfections are marks of authenticity
and that is the beauty of YOU.
- Isaac Fowler
This week, I encourage you to simply be. However you are, take a deep breath, and slowly exhale all the pressure, the frustration, the anxiety, the never feeling good enough, the self-doubt, the shame, the blame, the unforgiveness, the self-pity, the anger, the resentment, the bitterness, the fear, the loneliness, and most of all the perfectionist within you. Allow yourself to breathe in peace and let yourself just be, and whatever your mess looks like, just let it be.
Below is my go-to song for those moments where I’ve broken down and needed to calm my storm. Hoping it breathes peace into your hearts as well.